Can you remember the first compliment you received? What about the thoughts and emotions you felt about that thing they said that made you smile, straighten your back, stick your butt out and walk away feeling high on life. Ummm, it’s so funny how words create shifts in our thought process. My number one compliment I received was always about my hair. “Oh your hair is so long” or “Your hair is so soft or pretty.” It made me feel good! So what did I do with all of that? I started paying more attention to my hair. Going to the hairdresser every two weeks. Trying something new just to get those compliments coming in. I let my hair define me as a person. I started thinking about how can we embrace a compliment but not let it pull our focus toward the body part or feature to the point of fixation.
So after all these compliments on my hair my brain starts thinking “what about the rest of me.” Don’t get me wrong I give out compliments but didn’t realize how on the receiving end someone can become infatuated with that part of themselves. Your self image is so important and all the positivity we pour into it is well worth it. Beginning from your crown all the way down to your beautiful digits on your feet. Every scar, beauty mark, and dimple strategically placed where it should be. How you see yourself and feel about yourself does matter and if a compliment sets your emotions on high don’t forget about the rest of yourself is all I’m saying. So here I am thinking what else is nice about me besides my hair. I’m standing in the mirror just looking. Well my eyes are pretty I thought. Never had a compliment on my eyes before so does it mean its not so. Absolutely not! Because once those words are given a voice and spoken out loud then so shall it be. Even if you are the only one speaking it. I am “One Dope Chic”. It’s okay if you didn’t know but now you do.
I’ve asked several people “Do you find yourself giving more attention to the thing people has said is attractive about you?”To my surprise some had to really think about this and came to the conclusion that maybe they do unknowingly. My realization of this aspect came when I was of course doing my hair. Spraying the water, detangling, and slapping on the good stuff that locks the moisture in. After I was done and my hair was doing its thang like it does not a second look else where and I’m gone. Well I’m lying I check my butt out as well but it’s not that serious. Now, don’t get me wrong I do look myself over and make sure I’m feeling confident about approaching my day but never really understood why anyone would consider having a key feature. Everything about you is a “Key Feature”.
Beauty, Beautiful, Bodacious, and Banging are compliments that send the mind reeling. You just gotta eat it all up! The next minute, hour, or day when the internal shift occurs in the crevices of our mind from the info received does amazing things to the perception we have of ourself. It is Hyping up the positivity towards our self-image and if the compliment was just on a particular body part or feature it is still equal to everything else you got going on about you. My view is why would I dote on one part when I can love it all and guess what I do.